I will never forget the tone of voice of my parents when they called out to me. It was easy to tell the difference between concern, love, and frustration. The latter usually included the use of my entire name with extra syllables added! &nb…
Recalculating: Walk Away from Negative Thinking with the Course-Correcting Power of Words, is an excellent book with practical application for learning to renew your mind. Negative thinking causes a great deal of anxiety in our lives and we need the co…
Do you remember the old saying that goes, “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink?” Yeah, not sure how far back it goes but its application fits in a lot of different environments and situations. I’ve not ever owned a ho…
In her book, “Real Power,” Janet Hagberg talks about how our human understanding of power goes through stages. At stage three in the process, we come to understand power through symbols. Those symbols can be in the form of titles, cars, homes, size of your corporation, where your office might be located, any number of things can determine what you determine to be power.
But…that is ONLY stage three. In Hagberg’s study of power, there are SIX stages, not THREE. Yet, in our world, stage three appears to us as the top. There has been an avalanche of articles about Hugh Hefner following his death, and he, among many others through history to the present, can be seen to have achieved this understanding of power…and gotten stuck there (here is one of the more thoughtful editorials I have found).
Thankfully, there are other voices who managed to achieve enough of this power to recognize it needs only be one more step on the road to something far more valuable, a power worth more than things. There is more to seek in this life than notoriety and celebrity and fleeting positions of power. When we achieve these most sought-after positions of power, they are only temporary for eventually, someone is going to replace you. Someone new will be elected, a new revolution will occur or the mantle will be passed by retirement or appointment.
We don’t know what we don’t know because we fail too often to listen to those who know what we do not. I find that my journey through the valley of suck, this road which grief has led me upon, is not a road that is unknown. It is a path neglected and ignored but there is deep wisdom here, and a place of purging and correction and redirection. And it is here, I think C.S. Lewis pointed when he referred to the “deep magic” in The Chronicles of Narnia. For suffering is the way of The Christ, the way of Immanuel (Isaiah 53). I find there are few guides in our age who seem to know this path and if you can find them, they are rarely in the spotlight.
I remember once asking a question of a teacher, “who are you reading and listening to for your growth?” It seems all the more pressing as I journey on. Just who is guiding our guides? Who is teaching our teachers? We may not know what we don’t know but we can surely ask better questions and seek better guides.
May I Ask: What are the better questions you are asking? Who are the better guides you are finding?
Too soon?It is just the end of September, it is not the time for giving thanks yet, is it? I mean, we have a day for this after all right? I’ll be the first to admit it, I am a little miffed about some things in my life. I know, …
Okay, there is a lot of talk about meditation. We see it on TV and Movies (the Jedi are always doing it!). It is in the magazines we read. BUT for some of us it is so confusing because preachers online and in their pulpits tell us NOT to follow in the ways of meditation like in Eastern religions but then the BIBLE says over and over again to MEDITATE!!! AHHHH! What do you do?
The Bible says to meditate and so we should but the Bible has something a little different in mind because the focus of the Christian faith is to be in a life-changing relationship with God. We were made for a relationship with the Divine and Jesus Christ came so we could make the connection with God we could not do on our own.
So Christian meditation on the Bible helps us listen to the Spirit of God so we can know God. This is like the other side of prayer, not where we talk BUT where we begin to listen. So lets stay on target with the first step:
FIND A GOOD SPOT
HAVE A BIBLE, AND PAPER AND PEN
PSALMS – THE CENTER OF THE BOOK
What I hope you’ll learn though is that just about ALL the human emotions you could have toward God are in the pages of Psalms. From celebrations to catastrophes, form hope to despair, joy to anger, it is all in there.
READ SMALL SECTIONS (like 1-6 verses)
Why? Because the point here is to listen for God…to know God…to experience God. God is not giving out gold stars for reading all of the Book of Psalms. God wants to know you and meditation on the Bible, I have found small sections like 1-6 verses in plenty. Sometimes longer is just fine but let this be kind of a guideline.
HOW do I LIVE this? An authentic faith doesn’t stay in sanctuaries, synagogues or solitude. You can’t love your neighbor if you don’t go to your neighbor. You can’t love your enemy if you don’t see your enemy. You can’t love your loved ones either! The lessons of meditation are meant to be lived in real time and in the real world.
There you have 5 simple steps to do Christian Meditation on Bible Verses plus the bonus, which, if made part of the habit, will move the lessons of God’s Spirit from the head and heart to our hands and feet where you can change your world.
“Spiritual faith does not come by saying, ‘Show me a sign, God. Answer my prayer. Perform a miracle.’ It begins by believing simply that God is – and He is above His creation.” – Clement of AlexandriaI suppose you can look at it any number of way…
I hate it when I don’t take care of myself. I sometimes ignore my food allergies or neglect to drink enough water. The effects of these are always negative and I know it. It sucks. A couple of years ago now I did the “Body for B…
Be real with yourself. How are you changing? What did matter most to you? What does matter most now? Don’t back down here, really, you’ve got to be flat-out honest with yourself! Enough of the crap people say to make themselves feel better. You must take your next steps and not everyone in your family and friends is going to be in agreement with you and your decisions from here on out. A good journaling habit and or a counselor might be a good idea.
Do what you need to do. Do you need to get away for awhile? To binge watch TV? Sit out on your porch and drink beer? I don’t know what you need to do. I can tell you that NO ONE else knows though. You need to do things and take part in things that help you heal and move forward.
Choose your flock. Who are you hanging with and what kind of influence are they in your life? Who has stood by you? It is time to let some people go. Chances are, they already self-selected out of your life while others you didn’t expect, showed up. You choose who you get to hang with and when.
Consider your life philosophy. Carpe Diem? Life sucks and then you die? The one who dies with the most toys wins? Maybe you haven’t really asked that question before, well, now is a good time to do it. This might be the time to discover what it WAS so you can consider what it IS now. It is okay if it changes.
Consider your financial status. I know this is no fun and it sucks to do this but it must be faced. How are you going to provide for yourself moving forward? What is it going to cost? Who might help me? Is there someone I can trust with my best interests? You may not have much or you may have an abundance. Regardless where you fall on the spectrum, be honest with where you are in this area.
Start imagining the future. What do you see your future becoming? What does it look like? You get to shape what is next. It does not matter how old or young you are – you do get the freedom to choose. Times of pain and change provide the times we most often are able to grow and change.
Where is God in all of this? My life philosophy became the title of my first book, “Life Sucks Seek God.” In some ways, I have been all over the map, from being angry with God to falling down helpless and hopeless before the Divine. How do you see God in your life? It may be that it is time for your image or personification of God to be tossed aside. God is bigger than any box you and I can make. Maybe you need a break from God too.
You do realize clergy face the same, right? Yep, we’re to be “super-Christian” or “Bible Answermen/women.” Numbers are batted about regarding our churches that we serve as measures of our success. But these aren’t measures of our faith, only of our vocation. Our faith and our vocation get so wrapped together they become inseperable and then who do the clergy TALK to about faith without it becoming about vocational achievement?
Maybe I am wrong to bring it up but I suspect both laity and clergy feel the reality of a weight unjustly tied to our faith and our journey of faith. Our questioning, our wonderings, our wanderings, our messes, our doubting, our worries, all of these seem to be forced down into ourselves by a sinister (yes, and I do mean precisely that: sinister) tendency to establish measurements to that which is not meant to be measured.
Do we measure beauty? Do we measure compassion? What is the measurement we use for grace? How do we measure trustworthiness? Have we found a way to measure love?
Yet, in our churches (maybe even the Church), it seems to me, we have indeed found a way, even if unofficially, to measure one’s faith, and in so doing, it seems we have taken the “easy yoke” and the “light burden” of Jesus and have added to it in such a way that the faith our fathers and mothers has become something they would never recognize (see, Matthew 11:30). I certainly don’t think my Grandma Hagler would get it!