Like grandparenting, when we’re able to be with those we care about without placing our expectations on them, we can help them deal with their own anxieties, writes the Rev. Jack Shitama.
When we are defining ourselves in comparison to another person, we are not self-differentiating. They can make us feel mistakenly superior or irrationally inferior to another, writes the Rev. Jack Shitama.
It seems counter-intuitive, but creating and maintaining connections to individuals and groups are important facets of developing self-differentiation, writes the Rev. Jack Shitama.
At times of significance in life such as weddings, births and funerals, an opportunity arises for reconciling broken relationships, writes the Rev. Jack Shitama.
Giving yourself and others permission to say “no,” to ask for what you need, to make mistakes, and to rethink your actions provides the self differentiation that makes relationships go smoothly, writes the Rev. Jack Shitama
When someone threatens drastic action if they don’t get their way, whether it is in a family, church or organization, be careful how you respond. You may only encourage more ultimatums in the future, writes the Rev. Jack Shitama.
There are likely many more congregations that have a mix of perspectives on homosexuality, writes the Rev. Jack Shitama. Deciding what to do is potentially devastating.
The Rev. Jack Shitama has found three principles of time management that work well in ministry settings.
When we have the courage and self-control to question what we’re telling ourselves, we can discover a better path through life, writes the Rev. Jack Shitama.
A long time ago I realized every house needs an ice cracker. This was in the early 1980’s when we were living in Gainesville, Florida. Jodi and I had moved there to start a solar business with my brother. His wife and I were talking one day and we dis…